December, 2010 Archive

Attracting the Good Life

December 28th, 2010 by Ric in Lifestyle

Liz and I are huge proponents of the Law of Attraction. We believe that you are the catalyst that drives everything in your life and. Therefore, you can accomplish anything that you want to accomplish – that is the power of the Law of Attraction. Because of this law, you receive an abundance of whatever you focus on.

For me and Liz, this means that we try as much as we can to focus on what we are thankful for and what we want in our lives. We want to make more, we want to live more, and we want to give more. We focus on the things we want to attract into our lives, and because of this, we attract those things.

Matthew Ferry explains the Law of Attraction in his Healthy Wealthy n Wise article Life Coaching – Law of Attraction Explained by saying that “you attract into your life whatever you give your energy, focus and attention to, whether you want it or not.” If you focus on what you don’t have, what you hate about your situation, and basically, the negative aspects of your life, that is what you attract. If, instead, you focus on your goals and dreams, you bring yourself closer to achieving them.

Of course, the results aren’t always instantaneous. Thinking about being rich doesn’t cause riches to land on your lap the next day. The Law of Attraction, Matthew explains, “is hard to see because it usually happens over long periods of time and is very subtle… But eventually you are living exactly what you had thought about, in one way or another.”

Because we don’t always see immediate results, many of us struggle with the Law of Attraction. Many of us find ourselves stumbling along the way, and even doubting the truth or power of the Law of Attraction. Luckily, Barbara Kelly has written an article, Beyond Affirmations – 10 Tips for Using the Law of Attraction, up on Healthy Wealthy n Wise.

  1. Take 10 minutes every day to meditate. Barbara explains that you don’t have to take meditation too seriously. “There is no need to take a class, use a particular breathing method or sit on a hard pillow. You can meditate in a recliner, on the floor, standing up or even in the bathtub!” The idea is to get in touch with yourself and find time to focus only on you, your thoughts, and your feelings.
  2. Write 3 pages every morning. Barbara gives only three rules for this: “keep writing,” “no editing,” and “no judgment.” I don’t exactly do this everyday, but I like doing this every so often because it gives me insights into my own mind. Try writing three pages without thinking, and ideas that are swimming in the back of your head somehow find their way to the surface. What pops up may surprise you.
  3. Exercise your inner guidance system. Barbara suggests you ask yourself the following questions everyday, and write your answers down: “What are my special gifts? How do I bring more love, wealth, abundance into my life? Where do I feel most peaceful? What brings me joy? What is it that I truly desire?” You may not know what you want right now, but this should help you figure that out.
  4. Turn down the volume of your inner critic. “Your inner critic is not your friend!” Barbara explains. She suggests that you “invite this voice into your consciousness.” and learn to identify this voice. When you can identify it, then you can play around with it – make it talk louder or in a whisper, or make it sound really silly. It’s hard to take somebody that sounds like Donald Duck seriously, isn’t it?
  5. Learn while you sleep. Your mind doesn’t stop working, even when you go to sleep. Sometimes, your dreams present solutions to problems you experience in your waking hours.
  6. Take out the trash. Barbara puts it really well: “by clearing your space, you say to the universe, ‘I’m ready for beauty, joy, and abundance.’” Take the clutter out of your room, house, or office, and out of your life. Letting go of things makes more room for more blessings and abundance.
  7. Keep a gratitude list. This goes back to focusing on what you want to attract into your life. By writing down the things that you are grateful for, you can remind yourself of the good things you have when you start getting stressed or feeling bad.
  8. Look where you are going! “Faith is leaving the past behind and trusting in the future,” Barbara explains. “By focusing on the past, you miss your present and your future.” It’s a bit like driving a car. You have your mirrors to keep you aware of obstacles and dangers that are behind you, but you should only glance at them every so often and keep your eyes focused on the road ahead.
  9. Give. Sharing what you have with others, “results in better physical and mental health.” Donate to a charity, contribute time to a worthy cause, share some words of encouragement to somebody struggling, or even just smile at the person beside you.
  10. Once you have stated your desire for abundance, a loving relationship, or more wealth, release it and get on with your life. “Sitting on your couch waiting for something to happen will not bring the results you want.” You have to trust that the universe is working in your favor. Instead of waiting for results, it’s best that you go out and work to achieve your goals.

These are just a few tips from two experts on the Law of Attraction, but there is so much more we have to share with you. One of the things we’d like to share is this Free Video on the Law of Attraction. We invite you to watch it so you can learn more about how to put the principles of the Law of Attraction to work for you.

May you attract the good life in the coming New Year!


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All You Need is Love

December 21st, 2010 by Liz in Lifestyle

Love. A four-letter word that speaks volumes. As I think about it now, I realize how love has become to mean so many things to me at this stage of my life. I daresay I have experienced all kinds of love, in all its permutations .

I felt love or was made aware of that feeling, as a small girl who felt it towards her parents, grandparents, and siblings.

And of course, I knew a different kind of love when I met Ric . It would take a whole novel for me to describe that kind of love. But let me just say, that it’s the kind of love that would let me take that risk of being with somebody for the rest of my life. Marriage is indeed like jumping off a cliff, without knowing if there will be a safety net to catch us both. But with love, we both conquered that fear, and here we are, more than 18 years after falling down that cliff, hand in hand .

And then there’s the love for my children. It’s the kind that you have to experience yourself to understand what it’s like. From the time I found out I was pregnant, up until this minute as I watch my sons grow up and form their own individualities, my love for my children continues to flourish.

I’m so proud to have in me all these positive and empowering kinds of love.

The power of love, is a curious thing

Love can be so powerful. It is such strong emotion that all of us should know how to tap its power for our greater good.

This is the topic of Roseanna Leaton’s article on Healthy Wealthy n Wise entitled The Healing Power of Love and Good Relationships

If love can ruin kingdoms, seal victories, forge friendships, then imagine what it can do for a person like you .

In her article, Roseanna cites the numerous studies which have proven the positive benefits of love to a community.

One such study is of a community of Italian-Americans in a town called Roseto in Pennsylvania. The incidence of heart disease in the area was low, resulting in longer life expectancy. As we all know, Italian-Americans have a very close knit family. This cohesive family structure was seen as the reason for the good health of this community.

Consider too those countries which are the happiest in the list of Happy Planet Index 2009 which measures the happiness and general satisfaction of people. Costa Rica, Jamaica, Dominican Republic, Guatemala are not exactly rich countries, but they are the happiest . And it is of no coincidence that these people have a deeply-rooted tradition of kinship and familial social structure.

Roseanna further emphasizes that the kind of love you need is one that exists in a good relationship.

Now love CAN take on many forms – and not all of them are empowering. A woman who “stands by her man” in an abusive relationship is not the kind of love we’re encouraging here. Nor are we talking about the kind of love where a person subverts their own desires and beliefs to fit into a mold that loved ones approve of.

Love in healthy, meaningful relationships, where there is respect, kindness, trust, generosity, and understanding is the most powerful kind .

Love from the mouth of babes

While all this talk about love can be too logical and scientific, it’s also good to view love through the purest minds of children .

These are some of my favorite love quotes from children which I got from internet and all the other emails that I’ve received:

“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.”

“Love is that first feeling you feel before all the bad stuff gets in the way.”

“Love is when Mummy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”

“If falling in love is anything like learning how to spell, I don’t want to do it. It takes too long.”

“I’m not rushing into being in love. I’m finding fourth grade hard enough.”

“Don’t say you love somebody and then change your mind … Love isn’t like picking what movie you want to watch.”

“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.”

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”

Love in its pure form, with all that tenderness and honesty, does make you smile and appreciate the simplicity of this emotion.

Love is a gift that keeps on giving

“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.”

Finding love is giving love. Among the human emotions, love is very selfless. When you feel it, you don’t think of yourself, but of others. You are able to sacrifice your own needs and wants just to be able to give to your loved one his own needs and wants.

As a matter of fact, this emotion is so powerful that you are often able to stretch beyond your own perceived limitations to do things for your loved ones. Your own limits and “issues” can take a backseat .

And whether you find this love in a family, from your partner, your friends or a spiritual group is not important. What’s important is that you are in a stable structure that welcomes and cares for the REAL you with all sincerity.

Look within your family or group right now. Are you experiencing the kind of love that has the power to create a better you and a greater good for all?

If yes, PERFECT – enjoy your blessing.

If no, get cleat on the kind of love you wish to have and offer it back to the world. It will return to you magnified .

Happy loving and Merry Christmas!

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Finding Thanksgiving

December 13th, 2010 by Ric in Lifestyle

With Thanksgiving a few weeks ago, I thought it would be appropriate to discuss the meaning of the origins of the holiday, and what it means to us.

The first Thanksgiving celebration was literally that – a celebration giving thanks to God for helping the Pilgrims survive their first brutal winter in a new land. Today, Thanksgiving evokes images of several different things: turkeys (and other food), vacations, family, football games (and other sports too), and, if you count the week after Thanksgiving, shopping. With all these different images, it’s easy to forget what the holiday is all about, and I think it would be a good thing for us to explore that again.

Thanksgiving, you see, isn’t just a holiday in November (or another time of year, if you’re from other parts of the world). Thanksgiving is something we can do everyday – we can count our blessings and be grateful for what we have no matter what time of year it is.

John Carpenter Dealey gives one great reason to be thankful in his Healthy Wealthy n Wise article entitled Gratitude, a Gift that Keeps On Giving! In his article, he says that people who “describe themselves as feeling grateful, either to others or to a higher power, tend to have less stress, less depression, more vitality, more joy and feel more successful.”

The next time the economy, people, the weather, or anything else gets you down, Dealey suggests that you “grab a pen and write down some things you are grateful for. You will be amazed at how much this simple act of acknowledging the good around you can lift your spirits!” I totally agree – simply thinking of things I’m thankful for already lifts my spirits.

Gratitude goes beyond being thankful for what you know you have. It also means being able to receive new blessings gracefully, whatever form they may take. Judith Severn and Jim Sniechowski put it well in their article Gratitude Becomes You, also on Healthy Wealth n Wise. They say that “without gratitude, you can never feel spiritually full. You can never accept and trust that life is joyous and rewarding.”

Judith and Jim urge you to “make it a practice to see the opportunity in the crisis, the blessing in the disappointment, and the joy when it goes just like you want it to.” The saying goes that “when one door closes, another door opens” – this is exactly what Judith and Jim are telling you. New blessings are all around you – sometimes you just have to look a bit harder to recognize them.

Mike Robbins says it another way in another Healthy Wealthy n Wise article, this one called Discovering Everyday Gratitude: How to Live a Life Filled With Appreciation & Enjoyment. “There are great things happening in your life and around you all the time,” he explains. “You interact with amazing people each and every day. And, this is only “true” if you choose to recognize it, acknowledge it, and live it through your thoughts, words, and actions.” There is so much good happening around us and to us, and it’s up to us to acknowledge and recognize this good.

Mike goes on to share his “Top 5 Principles to Living a Life Filled With Appreciation and Enjoyment:”

1. Be Grateful
2. Choose Positive Thoughts and Feelings
3. Use Positive Words
4. Acknowledge Others
5. Appreciate Yourself

He explains each of these principles in his post, but before you read his explanations, I wonder, what do these principles mean to you? Give us your take in the comments.

Always thankful,

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Get Seen and Heard

December 7th, 2010 by Adaire in Financial Freedom

The caterpillar does all the work, but the butterfly gets all the publicity.” ~George Carlin, stand up comedian, actor, author

The most interesting element of marketing, for me, is Promotion – it’s that communication link between the seller and the buyer – how you say “here I am, here’s what I have to offer, buy me!” :)

It’s the same element that makes or breaks the success of your business. You may have a good product in your hands, or pricing that is competitive, but with weak promotions, you won’t get much far.

For me too, this is the “fun part.” :)

You can opt to budget for the traditional above-the-line advertising, (TV, radio & print), and be prepared to allot a huge chunk of your promo A&P for it. This kind of promotions may have a wider reach, but know too that a part of your advertising may be falling on the wrong targets, most of them not really interested in your product or services.

Simple, quick & cheap

Or you can take the below-the-line route, reach not as many people as you would want to, but definitely the right people, for less the cost! :) The key to a good promo is increased noise and visibility.  Get seen and heard by the right targets, the ones who are actually interested in what you have to offer.  Keep your promo messages simple:  what your product is, what good it will do for them, and how happy they’ll be when they use it. :)

Dr. Ivan Misner, called by CNN as the “father of modern network marketing”, and New York Times bestselling author, notes that your business can benefit from the promotions that your network can provide, at minimal costs.  In his article in the Small Business CEO magazine, he lists Top Ten Ways Others Can Promote You.  Dr. Misner suggests that you make the connection between specific items or services you need and identify the people who can supply them.  Make use of systematic referral marketing and find simple, cheap and quick ways to promote your business.

Get in the scene and make noise!

This is where the fun begins.  You can increase awareness for your business while building your network of suppliers and clients at the same time.  Use these occasions to announce yourself and endorse products and services.  Short of saying, get on that stage, grab the mike and tell the room about your products.  Of course, everything should be done within the bounds of proper business ethics and human relations.  :)

Bring out those business suits and cocktail dresses as you ensure that you’re invited to the right events, fairs and conventions.  Take it up a higher level and work on receiving recognitions and awards.  Chew up that shyness and nominate yourself, your products and services for citations of accomplishments. :)

Arrange meetings, make contact with key business suppliers and customers.  Let them know you’re in the scene, and make a lot of impact each time.  Make every interaction you have with these key people an unforgettable interface.  Now, you have the perfect excuse to stay out late as you wine and dine in the company of pleasant people. :)

Increase your visibility to those who matter

“I don’t hurt or want for visibility, but people seem to forget pretty easily.” ~ Gary Coleman, actor

As the quip goes, “out of sight, out of mind”, this is oh-so-true for products and services.  Keep letting your target market know you’re there, show yourself as much, as many times, and wherever possible.

Dr. Misner cites the importance of displays and exhibits.  Get on flyers and do leafleting activities.   Make your promo materials as visible as possible – the way the neighborhood salon promotes itself by attaching a leaflet on the garment bag of the laundry shop next door.  Or the way products are emblazoned on plastic bags carried out by every customer who walks out the shop.

Publish information about your business.  Make use of social networks to carry information about you around.  Make yourself searchable on the internet.  A simple but comprehensive website will not cost much to make.  Talk about creative fun again! :)

Get linked to a community

What has proven to be a very effective promotional vehicle is the network or community you and your business belong to.  Form strategic alliances and link with other businesses that can complement your services.  This is where Dr. Misner’s idea of systemic referral marketing kicks in.  Your community may be as good an ally and a competitor to you as well.  Either way, being linked to others is good publicity and free promotions for you.

Ensure too that your online connections are well established.  This is the easiest and cheapest way for people who need you can find you and get in touch with – to buy your product or avail of service.  Put yourself out there!

And while you’re at it, don’t forget to enjoy yourself.  After all, you’re doing the fun part of the business already! :)

See you around! :)

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