December 21st, 2010 Archive

All You Need is Love

December 21st, 2010 by Liz in Lifestyle

Love. A four-letter word that speaks volumes. As I think about it now, I realize how love has become to mean so many things to me at this stage of my life. I daresay I have experienced all kinds of love, in all its permutations .

I felt love or was made aware of that feeling, as a small girl who felt it towards her parents, grandparents, and siblings.

And of course, I knew a different kind of love when I met Ric . It would take a whole novel for me to describe that kind of love. But let me just say, that it’s the kind of love that would let me take that risk of being with somebody for the rest of my life. Marriage is indeed like jumping off a cliff, without knowing if there will be a safety net to catch us both. But with love, we both conquered that fear, and here we are, more than 18 years after falling down that cliff, hand in hand .

And then there’s the love for my children. It’s the kind that you have to experience yourself to understand what it’s like. From the time I found out I was pregnant, up until this minute as I watch my sons grow up and form their own individualities, my love for my children continues to flourish.

I’m so proud to have in me all these positive and empowering kinds of love.

The power of love, is a curious thing

Love can be so powerful. It is such strong emotion that all of us should know how to tap its power for our greater good.

This is the topic of Roseanna Leaton’s article on Healthy Wealthy n Wise entitled The Healing Power of Love and Good Relationships

If love can ruin kingdoms, seal victories, forge friendships, then imagine what it can do for a person like you .

In her article, Roseanna cites the numerous studies which have proven the positive benefits of love to a community.

One such study is of a community of Italian-Americans in a town called Roseto in Pennsylvania. The incidence of heart disease in the area was low, resulting in longer life expectancy. As we all know, Italian-Americans have a very close knit family. This cohesive family structure was seen as the reason for the good health of this community.

Consider too those countries which are the happiest in the list of Happy Planet Index 2009 which measures the happiness and general satisfaction of people. Costa Rica, Jamaica, Dominican Republic, Guatemala are not exactly rich countries, but they are the happiest . And it is of no coincidence that these people have a deeply-rooted tradition of kinship and familial social structure.

Roseanna further emphasizes that the kind of love you need is one that exists in a good relationship.

Now love CAN take on many forms – and not all of them are empowering. A woman who “stands by her man” in an abusive relationship is not the kind of love we’re encouraging here. Nor are we talking about the kind of love where a person subverts their own desires and beliefs to fit into a mold that loved ones approve of.

Love in healthy, meaningful relationships, where there is respect, kindness, trust, generosity, and understanding is the most powerful kind .

Love from the mouth of babes

While all this talk about love can be too logical and scientific, it’s also good to view love through the purest minds of children .

These are some of my favorite love quotes from children which I got from internet and all the other emails that I’ve received:

“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.”

“Love is that first feeling you feel before all the bad stuff gets in the way.”

“Love is when Mummy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”

“If falling in love is anything like learning how to spell, I don’t want to do it. It takes too long.”

“I’m not rushing into being in love. I’m finding fourth grade hard enough.”

“Don’t say you love somebody and then change your mind … Love isn’t like picking what movie you want to watch.”

“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.”

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”

Love in its pure form, with all that tenderness and honesty, does make you smile and appreciate the simplicity of this emotion.

Love is a gift that keeps on giving

“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.”

Finding love is giving love. Among the human emotions, love is very selfless. When you feel it, you don’t think of yourself, but of others. You are able to sacrifice your own needs and wants just to be able to give to your loved one his own needs and wants.

As a matter of fact, this emotion is so powerful that you are often able to stretch beyond your own perceived limitations to do things for your loved ones. Your own limits and “issues” can take a backseat .

And whether you find this love in a family, from your partner, your friends or a spiritual group is not important. What’s important is that you are in a stable structure that welcomes and cares for the REAL you with all sincerity.

Look within your family or group right now. Are you experiencing the kind of love that has the power to create a better you and a greater good for all?

If yes, PERFECT – enjoy your blessing.

If no, get cleat on the kind of love you wish to have and offer it back to the world. It will return to you magnified .

Happy loving and Merry Christmas!
Liz


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