April 5th, 2011 Archive

Take Charge of your Life

April 5th, 2011 by Adaire in Financial Freedom

As I flipped through the TV channels, I got caught up in this show, a dance competition. Admittedly, the choreographies are superb and the contenders are just…divine! But in that episode, one thing got stuck in my mind, the comment given by one of the judges to a pair who did a Wade Robson routine.

In a nutshell, the comment was about the pair being ready for any type of dance given to them. Instead of being a victim of a dance genre outside their forté, this pair, once given a routine, takes full control and owns the performance!

Not only did I readily agree with this remark, I was so inspired as well! :) Just like those dancers, life throws unto us a hodge-podge of things: bonuses, jokes, work, emergencies, emotions, accomplishment, conflicts, friends, opportunities and many more. How do we take all these?

Contentment vs Disappointment

Debra Kasowski, a speaker, coach and author and founder of The Millionaire Woman, outlines a few thought-provoking points about taking responsibility of one’s actions in her, How to Take Responsibility For Your Own Actions at Healthy Wealthy N Wise.

Debra mentioned two absolute truths, “Life is what you make it” and “Your happiness depends on you”. Unfortunately, most people usually fail to put these into practice as they choose disappointment over contentment. It is not wrong to be ambitious and to keep pushing for more. However, not being able to appreciate your possessions also means not having them at all.

Example, you worked hard to earn money and be able to buy a car. Finally, you did. However, a newer model came out and you want that one so badly! You then decide to save up again for the newer model. To do this, you opt to just leave your existing car at home so you can cut down on gas expense. Bottom line, you’re carless even if actually have one because you choose to want more instead of savoring what you have.

Contentment also lies in setting your priorities. As Debra stated, “you are the one who knows what is important to you, you need to choose and balance what you want to achieve”. Recognize the fact that you cannot have everything all at once. But instead of focusing on what’s missing, concentrate on what you have and use these to gain and become more, not otherwise.

Frustration vs Motivation

As a motivator, Debra loves to inspire and empower people to become rich from inside and out. Among the most common hindrances in enriching one’s life is frustration, therefore, its causes must be dealt with.

Frustration usually springs up from not having a crystal clear understanding of what you want. Not knowing what you want is like treasure-hunting without a map or a compass. You walk and walk, pour out your time and energy, give your all, but still end up nowhere. Before anything else, determine your goals. Once you have already discerned them, you can then plot out your strategy to achieve them. Just like a map to a hidden wealth, this gives a better vision of your path, a definite source of motivation. :)

The road to getting what you want is often rough and bumpy. Instead of looking at these as setbacks which indeed cause frustration, treat these as challenges. As Debra put it, stop “blaming, complaining or making excuses”. You are the master of your life, therefore, you must stay in control, don’t lose it! Think about how you wanted to get this done for yourself. In the end, the most blissful rewards are those out of difficulty. :)

Apart from your personal goals, another common cause of frustration is unresolved differences with the people around you (either a loved-one, a workmate or a friend). This is the reason why the word compromise exists, to strike a balance among people of varying desires. Find that win-win situation by recognizing each other’s preferences and devising a plan to meet both ends.

Yourself vs Support Group

Taking responsibility of your own actions does not mean carrying all the burden by yourself. A better strategy to seeking your own happiness is identifying ways to lessen your work load and still gain more- working smart that is. Example: If you have friends or relatives with specialized businesses, seek their help and advice in forming your own.

Apart from knowing your resources, study your options. Do not limit your way up by what you know, always try to learn new techniques. With the advancement of technology, it is possible that there is an easier process of doing things as opposed to the traditional method you may know.

Now, for you to effectively saturate your resources and options, communicate clearly what you want to achieve. For example, if you want to outsource a service to get rid of the menial tasks, you must be precise on your delegation. The same goes with your family and friends, don’t be ashamed to speak up if you need help. As mentioned in Debra’s article, “people want to help others achieve, to be able contribute to your success”. :)

I am no dancer but everyone knows that it’s really hard to deliver a type of dance which is outside your forte, totally different from your comfort zone. Whether in a competition or not, that’s the reality of life and you always have the choice to make it better for yourself and for the people you care for.

From this day on, no more pointing of fingers, you be in charge! :)

With you every step of the way,


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