May 24th, 2011 Archive

The Truth About What You Want

May 24th, 2011 by Ric in Lifestyle, Sharing Success

“Three things cannot be long hidden; the sun, the moon, and the truth.”
- Buddha

Susan Russo starts off her article Tell Yourself the Truth up on Healthy Wealthy nWise with that quote, and I can’t think of a more appropriate statement. Somehow, like the sun and the moon, the truth always comes out.

The truth Susan talks about, however, isn’t a juicy piece of news, or a government secret. The truth Susan talks about is something much more personal – it’s about me, it’s about you, and it’s about all of us.

The truth Susan talks about is this: we can live any way we want if we choose to.

Yes, this is something we all know already, but do we really live by this truth? “Think of all of the excuses you’ve heard people tell themselves to avoid facing reality,” Susan asks. “People don’t exercise because they don’t have the time. They drink because they’re stressed. Children are neglected because the parents are too busy to take 5 minutes out of their days to give to them.”

We all make excuses to avoid things we simply don’t want to deal with. We also make excuses to do the things we want, even when we know those things are bad for us.

Let’s be real here. You don’t smoke or drink because you’re stressed. You do it because you enjoy it, and for a few minutes at least, you feel good.

The reason you don’t exercise isn’t a lack of time. The reason you don’t exercise is that you don’t enjoy it, and there are plenty of other things you’d rather do.

Susan stresses that it’s time to live without excuses. Susan shares the following examples of cutting out excuses: “I’m fat because I don’t exercise and I eat what I want.”

“I’m stressed because I let life and all of its complications upset me.”

“I am in debt because I’m wasteful and don’t cut back in the many ways that I can.”

This list goes on and on, but the idea is clear – you have to face the truth about why you are where you are today. Until then, “until you quit making excuses as to why you can’t;” says Susan “you will continue to have what you’ve got.”

“If you really want to lose weight make the time to work out,” Susan suggests. “If you’re stressed, learn stress management or meditate. If you are struggling financially; create a budget and adhere to it.” If you really want something, stop making excuses, and go out and do something about it.

Another Healthy Wealthy nWise contributor, Debra Kasowski, seems to describe the next steps in here article How to Take Responsibility For Your Own Actions, sharing a few tips on getting what you really want. She shares eight different tips, but I’ll be sharing only a few of my favorites here:

Get Clear on What You Want.
“You can have what you want,” Debra explains, but “many people do not get what they want because they are not always clear on what exactly it is they want or expect from themselves or others.” You have to know what you want, otherwise you don’t have a goal or a direction. What many sometimes forget though is that you also have to make sure the people around you know that too. This way, others can help you achieve your goals, or at the very least not get in the way of them.

Set Your Priorities.
It’s easy to get frustrated when you encounter obstacles to your goals – we can all relate to that. The difference between those who succeed and those who fail is pretty simple: those who stop fail, and those who keep going succeed. Debra gives as an example being unable to block off an hour and half for the gym. Some won’t bother going anymore. “Going to the gym or for a walk for 30 minutes is still better that you coming home to sit on the couch,” Debra explains. “Do something toward reaching your goal instead of nothing.”

Go and Get It.
The tip is Debra’s, but I’ll go back to Susan’s quote for this: “until you quit making excuses as to why you can’t; you will continue to have what you’ve got.” You are responsible for getting what you want. If you really want something, you have to take action and go get it.

To get what we want, we have to stop making excuses, and we have to start moving. Otherwise, we stay right where we are, and that’s the truth.

Stay true,
Ric


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