Embracing Possibilities

Written on Tuesday, January 12th, 2010 at 10:11 am by Liz
Filed under Financial Freedom, Lifestyle.

The New Year brings with it plenty of promises, with new beginnings and fresh opportunities among them. In the wake of the worst economic downfall since the Great Depression, many people are looking forward to a better 2010.

My husband Ric and I are fortunate enough to have survived the worst of the blow. (We’re positively hoping that the worst is indeed over. <g>) One of the best things about working together and owning our own businesses and magazines, including The Transperience Network, Small Business CEO Magazine and Healthy Wealthy nWise Magazine, is that we’re in control of the decision making process.

We have each other to depend on and throw ideas back and forth with, and we tend to bring out the best in each other. Being imperfect individuals (yes, we do recognize our faults <g>), we also complement each other’s shortcomings. When one of our business ventures fail, and we do have the occasional disaster just like everyone else <g>, we don’t spend time or effort on blame. Instead, we assess where things went wrong, remedy the situation the best that we can and invest whatever lessons we learned in doing better on our next project. With this, we avoid most of the personal or professional conflicts that most business partners – especially those who are married to each other – encounter.

Now, I’ll stop digressing and go back to the point I was trying to make earlier. <g>  2010 is a chance for everyone to start anew and reform whatever bad habits they dislike within themselves in order to achieve better and improved lives.
The blame stops here

Margie Warrell’s Small Business CEO magazine article entitled Could Blame Be Holding You Back & Limiting Your Happiness? brought an often-taken-for-granted fact to my attention: people have a tendency to give in to blame.

A lot of people would rather blame others for the bad things that happen to them – from  traffic mishaps, to property conflicts, to less than stellar product performances or even sibling rivalries and other every day, and sometimes trivial, problems. Instead of looking deep within themselves or being the bigger person and choosing the higher path (known to some as the road less travelled <g>) – involving patience, forgiveness, understanding and other good values – men and women with whatever age, race or background choose to point their fingers elsewhere, and it is just sad. This habit is so destructive that it has caused countless troubles since time immemorial.

How can anyone move forward and succeed if they don’t even know how to accept their own faults and misgivings? In this world, no one is perfect, and those who say or think they are obviously need to get out more often. <g> Perhaps it’s the fear of looking at ourselves and seeing our weaknesses that hinder us from taking the higher road – or maybe just plain stubbornness and bad attitude for some <g> – but refusing to join the blame game and learning to accept our own faults help us see things better. If you, yourself, have accepted your own misgivings, then no one and nothing can put you down. Trust me, the way to financial freedom, success, more interesting relationships and exciting adventures will become much more clear.

When we know our own imperfections and weaknesses, we learn to recognize our own strengths and talents. It’s these new discoveries that will help us take personal responsibility and lead us towards accountability and self improvement. When we know what we’re good at, what our limitations are and where our passions lie, it’s easier to find that work you love or that life-changing experience. Paired with a positive outlook in life and a good attitude, nothing and no one can hinder your path to good times and success.

Invest your time and efforts wisely

Taking yourself out of the blame game and recognizing your own weaknesses and strengths in order to succeed will all be for naught if you don’t leverage your time and efforts wisely. Neil Graber’s article, How Well Do You Leverage Your Time and Effort?, in our Small Business CEO magazine illustrates this very well.

When you’re a parent running your own businesses, like Ric and I with our boys Chandler and Stefan and our various businesses, you need to plan ahead. Knowing what you need to do and how to go about doing it saves a lot of time and effort, as well as your sanity and relationships. <g> You need not be obsessive about it, but keeping a planner or at least mapping up a calendar posted on your refrigerator would help you get around to fixing everyone’s schedule and accomplishing a lot more within a day, a week or even a month. When you get to save some time, you get more chances to live more and spend time with your loved ones.

Don’t be afraid to delegate while you multitask. Your spouse and children would probably appreciate your needing their help around the house, and your business partner would like your recognition of his talent and capabilities when you seek his assistance. Never be shy about asking for help. In case you haven’t noticed, people aren’t exactly born with superhuman powers like what movies lead you to believe. <g> Learn to relax a little and let go. It will make you enjoy and appreciate the things you need to do more, instead of just being pressured and harassed by them.

Choose your weapons wisely. In any task that you do, you will most definitely save time – and yourself from disappointment <g> – when you know how you’ll go about approaching it and using the right tools in doing it. This will help you be more conscious of caring for any equipment you may use in your field and honing whatever talents you may have. Armed with the right resources, you will be able to face any obstacles in your path and move faster towards accomplishing the goals you’ve set for your business or yourself.


No one wants to waste their time and efforts, especially on petty things like blame and other destructive habits. If you realize that you’ve been falling victim to these unproductive things, it’s not too late to change. This 2010, make an effort to look within yourself, accept your weaknesses and recognize your strengths. Learn to leverage your time and efforts and embrace the possibility of a better, more productive life with your business and loved ones.

Have you taken yourself out of the blame game? If yes, how has the practice changed your life? Do you believe you’ve used your time and efforts wisely in your business or your life? Share your thoughts and tips with us through the comments section below.

Until next time!


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